Saturday, January 17, 2009 @8:03 PM
Another fascinating principle is that often, when we finally develop the courage to meet a problem head on, the problem disappears & we don't have to face it.
As soon as we develop the courage to make the difficult phone call, confront our employee or make the sacrifice, very often it becomes unnecessary. We agonise for weeks over breaking news to our secretary that she'll need to find alternative employment & when we finally hit her with the news, she tells us that she can't wait to leave! Of course, this turn of events doesn't always occur & sometimes we have to bite the bullet!
Also, we often find that once we decide to face a fear, fear evaporates.
No doubt you have had the experience of performing a task that you thought would be difficult or particularly embarrassing. When you jumped in & did it it wasn't half as bad as you anticipated. This particularly applies to telling the truth & owning up to mistakes & misdeeds. How often have you found that thinking about it was so much more painful than doing it?
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Thursday, January 1, 2009 @8:58 PM
This awareness of how our mind works gives us cause to consider what we are sating to ourselves & to others. When you say to your little nephew, " Don't fall out of that tree", you are actually helping him to fall out of it! If you say to yourself, " I don't want to forget my book", you are already halfway to forgetting it.
This is because your mind works on pictures. When you say to yourself, " I don't want to forget my book", you get a picture in your mind of forgetting. Although you say " I don't want want that", your mind still works on that picture & the results ... you forget your book. When you tell yourself " I want to remember my book", you will have a mental picture of yourself remembering, & you will be in a far better position to remember.
Your mind simply does not, cannot & will not work on the reverse of an idea. Therefore when the volleyball coach screams out to his player, " Don't miss the spike", he is asking for trouble! When you say to your children, " Don't break grandma's ten thousand dollar antique vase", you are inviting disaster!
Many frustrated parents could ease their situations by using language which paints pictures of the desired result in their children's minds. Then " Don't scream! " becomes " Please be quiet! " & " Don't miss your serve " becomes " Please serve over ". These differences may seem subtle but they are very, very important.
This principle can help explain why you can drive your old wreck for fifteen years & never scratch it. . . & the first day you have your shiny new set of wheels, you manage to remodel the the whole front end! Driving around thinking, " I mustn't dent this car whatever i do! " is a dangerous though. The thought must be, I'll drive safely.
The tennis player who wins the big tournament is the player who is always thinking, " I want this point. This one is mine!" The fellow who misses out is the one who thinks, " I had better not blow this shot! "
Similarly, the person who says " I don't want to be sick " has an uphill battle to become well & those who fill their minds with thoughts like " I don't want to miss this serve", "I don't want to spike into the net" & "I hope i don't mess this up" can continually find themselves in the very situation they didn't want.
Positive thinking works because positive thinkers dwell on what they want. They then necessarily gravitate toward their goals. Always think about what you want!
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@2:42 AM
Thoughts are invisible clouds that go out & gather up results for us.
They determine what we reap.
Let's spend some time examining how what is on your mind affects what is in your life. Perhaps one of the most important principles you will ever understand about your mind is that you will always gravitate toward what you think about most.
Someone recently told me, " When i was young i said i would never marry a man called " Max ", i would never marry a man younger than myself & i would never play volleyball for a living. I have done all three! ".
How often have you heard that kind of story? How often have you found yourself in precisely the situation that you said you didn't want? You said to yourself, " If there is one thing i don't want to happen . . . If there is one question i don't want to be asked . . . If there is one stupid mistake that i don't want to repeat . . . & guess what you got? "
The principle is, " Think about something & you move toward it. " Even if you are thinking about something you don't want, you will move toward it. This is because your mind moves toward things, never away from them. If i say to you, " Don't think about a big elephant with big ears & purple spots & wearing shades", what will fill your mind? An elephant!
Do you ever say to yourself, " I mustn't forget that" & then go & forget it? Your mind cannot move away from forgetting It can move toward remembering but if only your thinking is " I want to remember that".
team.
